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Sexual pleasure is only one part of what men and 

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women want from each other. They want intimacy, they 

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want closeness, they want understanding, they want 

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comfort, they want fun, and they want somebody who 

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really cares about them beyond going to bed with 

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them, and I think people are always seeking that. In 

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every generation. [ MUSIC ] 

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My name is Shirley Zussman. I just reached a hundred 

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years of age, and I am a practicing 

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sex therapist. I was invited with my husband 

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to a lecture in New Jersey, in 1966. Masters 

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and Johnson were the speakers. No body knew about 

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them. Human sexual response had just been 

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published, what I saw was a couple 

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who will say that people had problems in an area 

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in their lives that was very important and they were 

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recognizing that it was all not just. Glamorous and 

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wonderful to be sexual. One had to almost had to 

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learn how to be a good partner and to endure the 

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pleasure not only for yourself but for each other. And I 

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thought we can do that. Why can't we do that? And we 

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applied for training with Masters and Johnson at that 

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time. The patients that came to us were people who 

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read the paper. The only way they do anything about 

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the work that was being done there. And the problems 

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they came with, was somewhat different than the 

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problems they come with today. Mostly, women came 

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because would put out orgasmic, they didn't know how 

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to achieve an orgasm, but they wanted one. It 

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was so over that ,. Goal they had for themselves and 

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how do I get there. That was one Masters and 

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Johnson's contribution that there was a relatively 

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simple way to start learning about your body. In 

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other words, get, get to know your, who you are 

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sexually and physically and that was. And 

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encouragement for masturbation for learning what 

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makes you feel good. I 

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see a big change in the we view casual sex. 

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In the 60's I think it was not just casual it was frantic. 

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I'm shocked at the lack of connection with people; 

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because of iPhones, even I love my iPhone. There 

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is so much less actual physical connection, there's 

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less touching, there's less talking, there's less holding, 

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there's less looking, [ INAUDIBLE ]. People get pleasure 

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from looking at each other. But the most common 

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problem, I would say, in the sex therapy 

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that I live in, is a lack of desire. You have to look 

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at your priorities. You have to decide what is important 

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to make you feel good about yourself and your life. 

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And to help make your partner feel good and to 

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establish something that is gratifying that really fills 

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a need that we all have to be close to somebody.