1 00:00:00,909 --> 00:00:05,709 The London newspaper The Daily Mail listed the top ten problems experienced 2 00:00:05,740 --> 00:00:08,440 by couples on vacation together. 3 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:14,940 And topping the list was: The man looking at other women in bikinis on the beach. 4 00:00:14,940 --> 00:00:20,020 Now, in another Prager university course, I explain the sexual power of the visual on men. 5 00:00:20,020 --> 00:00:24,260 And as I show, and as anyone readily understands unless they've been misled 6 00:00:24,260 --> 00:00:29,280 by a politically correct college course the power of the visual to excite men 7 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:31,240 has no analogue in women. 8 00:00:31,240 --> 00:00:34,800 Women don't get excited by virtually every male body at the beach. 9 00:00:34,800 --> 00:00:40,200 Male legs don't turn them on like female legs turn men on. Etc. etc. 10 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:45,560 It takes massive willpower in fact for a heterosexual man not to look at bikini-clad women. 11 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:50,760 And few men -- even the nicest, finest, and most monogamously faithful and loving -- 12 00:00:50,760 --> 00:00:52,440 have such willpower. 13 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:57,800 So, the Daily Mail notes, this frequently causes problems when a couple's itinerary 14 00:00:57,809 --> 00:01:00,440 includes a visit to the beach. 15 00:01:00,440 --> 00:01:02,800 And what exactly is the problem? 16 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:07,420 The problem is that the wife or girlfriend feels threatened by his looking. 17 00:01:07,420 --> 00:01:13,380 And why does she feel threatened? Because she thinks he is comparing her to those women. 18 00:01:13,380 --> 00:01:17,160 And why does this disturb her? Here are three reasons. 19 00:01:17,160 --> 00:01:22,000 First, virtually every woman, no matter how attractive, thinks that when her man is looking 20 00:01:22,010 --> 00:01:26,270 at other women -- other women in general, and in bikinis especially -- 21 00:01:26,270 --> 00:01:29,220 he is finding them more attractive than her. 22 00:01:29,220 --> 00:01:36,220 Second, she thinks that he is therefore dissatisfied with her, which in turn arouses the unspoken 23 00:01:36,220 --> 00:01:39,480 but primal fear that he might leave her. 24 00:01:39,480 --> 00:01:43,960 And third, she is sure that her man will continue to think about these women 25 00:01:43,960 --> 00:01:46,860 long after they have disappeared from sight. 26 00:01:46,860 --> 00:01:49,220 So now, let's analyze these reasons. 27 00:01:49,220 --> 00:01:53,640 First, does the husband or boyfriend find these women on the beach -- or for that matter 28 00:01:53,650 --> 00:01:57,560 anywhere else -- more attractive than he finds his wife or girlfriend? 29 00:01:57,560 --> 00:02:03,700 Well, since I believe that only honesty works in the long run, the answer is sometimes, yes. 30 00:02:03,700 --> 00:02:08,400 He may very well find some of those women more physically attractive than his woman. 31 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:11,980 But, here's the point that most women, again understandably, don't know: 32 00:02:11,980 --> 00:02:16,940 with very few exceptions, it doesn't matter! 33 00:02:16,950 --> 00:02:21,010 You heard me right. Of course, when looking at these other women, he may find some of 34 00:02:21,010 --> 00:02:25,390 them more physically attractive than the woman he is with. But -- and here's the good news 35 00:02:25,390 --> 00:02:27,250 -- SO WHAT?? 36 00:02:27,250 --> 00:02:30,840 Presuming he is attracted to you -- and if he isn't, it doesn't matter if you're vacationing 37 00:02:30,840 --> 00:02:37,560 in a monastery and all he sees are monks -- he wants YOU. I repeat, he wants YOU. 38 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:42,540 And if he does, all these other women don't amount to a hill of beans. 39 00:02:42,540 --> 00:02:46,720 There's another thing women need to know. Within seconds of her disappearing from view, 40 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:52,390 he has no memory of any of these women. When in sight, they can take over his male mind. 41 00:02:52,390 --> 00:02:57,800 But out of sight, they are out of mind. It's as if they never existed. 42 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:02,920 Yes, the visual gets men's total attention in a matter of seconds, but as soon as the 43 00:03:02,930 --> 00:03:10,030 woman he was focused on vanishes, most men forget what they saw in an equal number of seconds. 44 00:03:10,030 --> 00:03:14,310 Why does this come as news -- and hard to believe news, at that -- to most women? 45 00:03:14,310 --> 00:03:19,870 Because you, the woman, remember the women your man looked at. 46 00:03:19,870 --> 00:03:26,210 And you therefore think that he, too, remembers them. But let me assure you he doesn't. 47 00:03:26,210 --> 00:03:33,100 Most men under torture couldn't identify the women they looked at that the hour before, let alone the day before 48 00:03:33,100 --> 00:03:37,920 if they were shown photos of them along with photos of women they had never seen. 49 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:42,040 And more good news! His seeing women who he thinks for that moment are more attractive 50 00:03:42,050 --> 00:03:47,420 than you has no bearing whatsoever on his being "dissatisfied" with you. 51 00:03:47,420 --> 00:03:53,980 Men find other woman attractive in large measure just because they are other women. 52 00:03:53,980 --> 00:04:00,660 Men are programmed by nature to want variety -- indeed endless variety. That's why God-fearing King 53 00:04:00,670 --> 00:04:08,520 Solomon had 700 wives and another 300 concubines, and secular Hugh Hefner had at least that many lovers. 54 00:04:08,520 --> 00:04:14,440 In sum, then, when your man looks at these other, perhaps even "more attractive" women, 55 00:04:14,440 --> 00:04:21,380 he is: A) Not comparing you to them B) Not in any way becoming dissatisfied with you, 56 00:04:21,420 --> 00:04:24,980 and C) Certainly not thinking of them later. 57 00:04:24,980 --> 00:04:30,060 He looks at them because they are other women, whether they are more attractive, 58 00:04:30,060 --> 00:04:36,380 just as attractive, or less attractive. They are women in bikinis. So he looks. 59 00:04:36,380 --> 00:04:41,490 Where there is basic domestic harmony and mutual physical attraction, more than anything, 60 00:04:41,490 --> 00:04:48,710 your husband wants you. When he looks, he isn't comparing, he isn't getting dissatisfied, 61 00:04:48,710 --> 00:04:55,180 and he won't have a clue later as to who he saw. So when you're back in your hotel room, 62 00:04:55,180 --> 00:04:58,440 put on your own bikini, and tell him you want him. 63 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:03,080 Because again, more than anyone else in the world, he wants you. 64 00:05:03,090 --> 00:05:10,180 And if you don't believe me, ask him. You'll be glad you did. And so will he. 65 00:05:10,180 --> 00:05:11,880 I'm Dennis Prager.